I think anyone, even the most fit of us, has some sort of magical goal weight in mind...that number that we think, "if only I could get down to this weight, I would look the way I want to look and have the life I want to have." You may be 10 lbs away from that weight or 110 lbs away from that weight. Here's the thing, that perfect life doesn't exist. No matter what you weigh, answering that call is tough. You'll think "I could do more, I could lose more, I could tone more." What if you decided to be grateful for where you are now, to live now, to celebrate yourself in the body you are in?
My body has a "happy weight." It isn't the number I would choose. I would choose a smaller number. But, it is the weight that shows up most often on my scale when I am living my normal life. Normal life for me is when I am exercising regularly, eating mindfully (but not counting calories, carbs, macros...), sleeping well, and staying hydrated. I can get below that number and I have, but it required much more thought about my meals, many more workouts, and time away (mentally and physically) from my friends, family, and balanced life. So, I am learning to be happy with my "happy weight."
Thing is, there are better goals you can be setting that have less to do with appearance and more to do with valuing your self and your body. I am well aware that I am never going to be a lingerie model and I am completely ok with that, so why do I set these impossible appearance standards on my body, a body that carries me so well through all my life experiences?? Truth be told, I am my strongest at my "happy weight." I'm not foggy, headachy, grumpy from deprivation....and I don't have to keep up with the negative talk in my brain. I ignore the bitch in my brain that tells me to deprive myself...she's not my friend. Embrace instead the warrior within that says "lift heavier, don't quit- you've got this, move because you can...not because you should..."
It's so important to show up in your life without focusing on the outside. Here is a real question: How often do you base the fun in your life on what the people you love look like?? For real, do you ever look at your laughing children, your hardworking partner, your loving mother and think, "man, this would be so much more fun if they looked different." NO! And they are not looking at you that way, either. Take that imaginary weight off of yourself and be present with your loves and with yourself and be grateful for what all you have.
I used to be much more self-conscience of what I looked like. I saw a picture of myself from 15 years ago when my daughter was a toddler and my oldest son was in Kindergarten and we were on the beach. I remember being sad that day feeling like I did not look great in a bathing suit and letting that feeling cloud my day. MAN! I wish I looked like that now...It was all in my head and such a waste of a good day. Fast forward to this fall when I was on the beach with my then 9 year old son, Kingston. I am a heavier, older version of that chick 15 years ago, but so much more balanced. I not only did not care what I looked like, but I body surfed and boogie boarded all day with that little boy...had crunchy, sandy, dreaded hair, mascara running, parts popping out of a bikini that would be better covered.... but I had a happy little boy come running up to me, hug my neck, and say, "Mommy, thank you for not being one of the Mommy's in the chair that won't get wet. Thank you for being a Mommy that plays in the waves," and he ran off with a big smile. Was that worth letting go of that selfish, self-deprecating dialogue I previously had? Hell yeah it was!
Never stop moving, never give up on a healthy diet, but do give up that negative dialogue that prevents you from enjoying a balanced life. Get yourself to your "Happy Weight" and be happy with it. The weight of not accepting yourself weighs more on your soul than any pound on the scale ever could.
Love to you all!! You are exactly where you are supposed to be today.